At first glance when you see me I look like a regular mom with a husband and baby girl who loves drinking champagne and twinning with her daughter. But there’s so much more to people than what you see from the outside and I am proof. This week is National Infertility Awareness Week and that is inspired me to share more about my struggles.
As I’ve talked about in the past I was diagnosed with Polycycstic Ovarian Syndrome when I was 12. When I was 22 I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease. Here I am at 28 living with two diseases that can cause infertility. You know when you go to the doctor and they add the reason for your visit to your chart? Well I’ll never forget February 18, 2016 when I saw “infertility” as one of my diagnoses. I always knew there was a possibility I couldn’t have children because of these diseases but seeing that dreaded word really changed it all. Long story short I’m blessed to have gotten pregnant as naturally as possible for someone with PCOS.
But let me tell you – secondary infertility is SO REAL as well and it doesn’t hurt any less. The worst thing you can say to a woman who already has a child who is trying for another one is”at least you already have one!” We know you’re trying to make us feel better, but you’re not.
Living with two silent diseases is hard. And not knowing your health future is even harder. Sometimes I wish the were visible diseases so people could understand more about me – but I am super proud of these diseases and who they make me.
That being said, reach out to one of your friends this week who may be going through a tough time, fertility related or not, and help them. Because one text could literally change sometimes life.
Check out my original ‘coming out’ story here: http://whatlizzylikes.com/i-am-1-in-10/